My view on accepting bounces and replies to your email
This topic came up in comments on yesterday's entry about Yahoo Groups not accepting bounces of their email, so I'm going to make it an entry and elaborate on my views here.
My views on accepting bounces are pretty simple: if you send out email using anything but the SMTP null sender, you have a responsibility to accept bounces of it back. In fact, not just bounces alone; bounces and replies, because some of the recipients will have out-of-office and other auto-responders (whether implemented on the server or in their IMAP client, and yes I've seen both). Since you have to accept replies and replies may be in arbitrary formats and come from random addresses that are the result of forwarding and other things, in practice you must accept all email to any address that has recently sent out email.
(We can have a rousing debate over whether you 'must' accept email
merely to the
MAIL FROM of outgoing email or also to the
Reply-To: of the email. My pragmatic answer is that there exist
systems that will send replies to the latter, so yes, you should.)
By 'accept' I mean merely that your SMTP receiver must accept the
message during a SMTP transaction. Technically you may immediately
drop the message in
/dev/null if you want; your obligation is
merely to insure that the mail systems generating bounces and replies
are not stuck with either the bounces (as they would be if you don't
accept or reject them outright) or bounces-of-replies (as they would
be if you rejected replies).
(Throwing bounces away locally is a sign of a spam operation, since you're ignoring delivery failures and will therefor continue grimly trying to email addresses that are simply not working. But that's different from irritating other mail system operators.)
You have no obligation to accept bounces, replies, or even general email from the null sender address to addresses that have not sent email, or that do not send email that will ever leave your domain. In particular, people with sender address verification systems that assume that all addresses will accept email from the null sender are doing it wrong.
(Not that sender address verification is a good idea in general, but there are more worse and less worse ways of implementing it.)
Since modern mailing list systems individualize the
of every outgoing message to every recipient, they
have a built in way of knowing what local email addresses have
recently sent email and thus should accept it back. Or they can
just accept everything if they're going to throw it all away anyways.
When receiving replies I feel that it is legitimate to respect
the DMARC policies of the
MAIL FROM, even
if this causes you to reject some incoming messages. I will wave
my hands about rejecting things at SMTP time that are properly
identified as spam. In the specific case of mailing list software
I think you should accept everything since it's just going to
On a purely pragmatic level, I've written before about how not accepting bounces make you look bad and how broken bounce addresses don't fool anyone any more. The pragmatics are pretty clear: if a random new sending domain doesn't accept bounces and (auto-)replies to their email, the odds are very good that they're a spammer. It's not a sure thing, but it is a strong smell and you can expect people to react to it.
(And it's not as if it's particularly difficult or expensive to set up a simple email server that just throws away everything it receives. I even have something that can do this sitting around and I'm pretty sure you could run a high-capacity install of it on the smallest, cheapest instance AWS offers.)