It's time for me to stop using lighttpd
There's another SSL configuration vulnerability going around; this one is called Logjam (also). Part of the suggested fixes for it is to generate your own strong Diffie-Hellman group instead of using one of the default groups, and of course another fix is yet more SSL parameter fiddling. There have been quite a lot of SSL/TLS related issues lately, and many of them have required SSL parameter fiddling at least in the short term.
I've had a long-standing flirtation with lighttpd and my personal site has used it since the start. But this latest SSL issue has crystallized something I've been feeling for a while, which is that lighttpd has not really been keeping up with the SSL times. Lighttpd cannot configure or de-configure a number of things that people want to; for example, it has no option to disable TLS v1.0 or SSL compression (although the latter is probably off in OpenSSL by now). OCSP stapling? You can forget it (from all appearances). In general, the last release of lighttpd 1.4.x was a year ago, which is an eternity in SSL best practices land.
For a while now I've been telling people when they asked me that I couldn't recommend lighttpd for new deployments if they cared about SSL security at all. Since I care increasingly much about SSL myself, it's really time for me to follow my own advice and move away from lighttpd to something else (Apache is the most likely candidate, despite practical annoyances in my environment). It'll be annoying, but in the long run it will be good for me. I'll have a SSL configuration that I have much more trust in and that is much better supported by common resources like Mozilla's SSL configuration generator and configuration guidelines.
There's certainly a part of me that regrets this, since lighttpd is a neat little idea and Apache is kind of a hulking monstrosity. But in practice, what matters on the Internet is that unmaintained software decays. Lighttpd is in practice more or less unmaintained, while Apache is very well maintained (partly because so many people use it).
(Initially I was going to write that dealing with Logjam would push me over the edge right away, but it turns out that the Logjam resources page actually has settings for lighttpd for once.)